Thursday, July 29, 2010

We're In Seoul & We've Met Our Son!

Greetings from Seoul! Sorry no post until now, we don't have internet access in the room, so we have to come down to the business center :(

Here's a picture of the sign that kicked off our journey at San Francisco International Airport.


Brian and me just before we boarded our plane.


Here is a shot of our HUGE plane. Biggest I've ever been on.

We arrived Thursday night around 6pm (Seoul time = 16 hours ahead of Pacific time). The plane ride was fairly smooth, just long. 11 hours straight in the air isn't my idea of a party, but the Korean Air onboard entertainment system made it bearable. Brian went crazy with the movie selection and took in 4 movies as well as some 1/2 hour shows. I watched 3 movies and made my own music mix (go figure) to listen to while I read through my magazines.

Brian enjoying the onboard entertainment system.


I was in heaven being able to make my own custom music mix onboard.

We landed and breezed through Immigration and Customs and grabbed our 4 pieces of luggage (3 for us, 1 for Wesley/Gifts). We headed outside to find our van driver from the Korean adoption agency and the humidity hit us like a brick. Whoa, was it thick! I could feel my hair curly up and frizzing out instantneously. We saw our van guy with the "FULLER" sign and started waving our hands in the air like tourists who had never been anywhere - we were THAT excited.

He took us to the "Love Mobile" which we thought was so appropriate. However, after the ride we were about to partake in, it should be labeled, "Hell on Wheels."

I had heard about the "fast driver" from the agency, but this guy was insane. Brian and I have had some crazy cab drivers when we've visited New York, but this was a whole new ballgame. I felt like we were in a movie shooting a chase scene. Seriously. We were weaving in and out of traffic going what felt like 100mph. We finally made it to our hotel in one piece as our driver drove up onto the sidewalk almost taking out a few pedestrians. Whew. After checking in, we went up to our rooms, changed and headed out for a quick bite to eat.

We didn't venture too far because we were beat and hungry. We found a little noodle house in the Hongik University District and decided to give it a try. The host asked us if we spoke Korean and when we said "no" he ended up taking our order himself. The food was good and inexpensive - lots of students there. The city was buzzing with young people and it was still very humid and there was a foul odor permiating. You would get a wiff of it everyone once in awhile between our hotel and restaurant. There was a lot of roadwork being done. I'm not quite sure what the "smell" was, but it was bad - maybe the source of the road being tore up? We came back to our hotel, wrapped the gifts to bring to the agency and went to bed. Big day ahead of us. We were going to meet our son for first time.

So, this morning we got up had some Starbuck's and then headed out to the adoption agency to meet Wesley. I think we were both anxious, but not necessarily nervous. Until. . . we arrived.

Here is the front of Eastern Social Welfare Society (Korean adoption agency)

We went inside and met up with our social worker, Mrs. Shin (who I recognized immediately from our videos) to fill out some paperwork and discuss the rest of our stay. We will have a second meeting on Monday, followed by a tour and luncheon with the director of the agency, Dr. Kim. Then, we get Wesley on Wednesday before our flight. They have so many families coming this week, we didn't get a choice on when to get Wesley and we were actually ok with that - someone else made that decision for us.

Then, the moment we've been waiting for came. Mrs. Shin took us down a hallway to go to the playroom and right before we turned we could see Mrs. Park (foster mom) with Wesley in another room with some other FMs. I got chills and my heart started to race. We entered the playroom and I told Brian, "Ok, NOW I'm nervous." A few moments later, Mrs. Shin came in by herself holding our sweet Wesley. The feeling was surreal. We both said, "Hi" to him and went over and he looked at both of us and smiled. What a perfect smile.

Mrs. Shin said to me, "Ok, now you need to try and hold him" and handed Wesley to me. I took him a few seconds went by and then. . . tears, lots of tears. Then full-blown crying. I told him that it would be ok and bounced up and down trying to calm him. He wasn't having it. After what felt like a few minutes (probably not even that long) Mrs. Shin extended her arms and I handed him back to her. She exited the room to go get Mrs. Park. I looked and Brian and said, "It's ok. I'm ok. It could've gone either way. We knew that." He didn't take any pictures, he couldn't.

Both ladies came in a few moments later with Mrs. Park smiling and laughing exactly the way she's done on the videos we have. She instantly put me at ease. Wesley looked at both of us with tears still in his eyes. Mrs. Park explained (via Mrs. Shin translating) that Wesley's foster brother (this is the first we had heard that he had one) left 2 weeks ago to go be with his forever family in Australia. Wesley's been having a very hard time with that ever since. The two boys were the same age and were very close. He seemed to be much more clingy to Mrs. Park. We spent the rest of our hour doing some playing with Wesley, asking some questions and watching him take a bottle.

We both couldn't believe how big he was. I mean we knew from the health reports how much he weighed, but OMG! His feet are huge. His belly is huge. Everything on this kid is big! I love it! I kept starring at his sweet face while he was drinking the bottle and just couldn't believe that we were actually sitting there face to face with him.

Here are a few pictures of our meeting.






When it was time to go, Mrs. Park wrapped Wesley up and went to take him for his last physical. Mrs. Shin asked us how we thought it went. We told her that we thought it went "Ok." I told her, that we were trying not to push things because we realized that Wesley was having a hard time and we didn't want to scare him. She said she appreciated that. She also told us that she's seen worse which I think was kind of her way of trying to make us not worry. We've been prepared for this. It's going to be a big change for this little guy. Now, you throw in that he's experienced the loss with his foster brother - a bit of a curveball. We'll get through it. We love him and we'll get through it.

We're off to explore. We'll check in later with more. Sorry for the long post. Lots to say. :)

13 comments:

  1. Oh my stars Michelle I've been thinking of ya'll all night. I was putting AJ down for the night and instantly realized you were with Wesley! Gilbert and I both read your post together and am so happy for you. We'll be praying for Wesley as he makes this transition. Please know it'll all work out. Enjoy!

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  2. Michelle and Brian - thank you so much for sharing your journey. I know that transition for Wesley is a bit overwhelming for him but you have time to make it easier for him. Much love to all of you. Maureene

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  3. I can't believe you've already met Wesley! Seems like you JUST left for Korea!! Don't worry - these first meetings often go this way. The poor kiddos don't know what to make of it all. He'll come around. It's amazing to meet your son in the flesh, though, isn't it? I'm so excited for you guys! At the second meeting, he'll recognize you and it will go smoother.

    PS - We had Mrs. Shin too and I love her.

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  4. Some kids are very intuitive and feed off the stress at Eastern and are just not themselves. So just wait until you have him away from there and you'll see him shine. Actually, your meeting is pretty much how it goes that first time and it gets better and better. He's adorable....can't wait to hear more.

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  5. Sooo happy to see this post! You have been in my thoughts since you left. I was shocked to see the post already include "and we've met our son"...OMG, so amazing! Enjoy your time there and I cannot wait to see your next post!

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  6. I'm so glad you were able to meet Wesley! He's such a cutie.
    Avery

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  7. Thanks for sharing! You're doing great.... these lyrics from "King And I" so remind me of this first chapter! Love to the Fuller Family!
    XO's, Mac & Jan

    Getting to know you,
    Getting to know all about you.
    Getting to like you,
    Getting to hope you like me.

    Getting to know you,
    Putting it my way,
    But nicely,
    You are precisely,
    My cup of tea.

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  8. Praying for you! Please don't apologize for the long post - I've been waiting to hear how everything is going! So sorry to hear that Wesley is having a hard time. Big hugs to all of you! Praying for as smooth of a transition as possible!

    I love the "Getting to Know You" song - great one for adoption! :)

    Great pics! Thinking of you!

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  9. we are so glad you got to meet Wesley! I think Karen is right, the kids can feel all the emotions and stress and just know something major is happening. Maybe Wesley knows how FM was when FB left and he feels it again- I'm sure it's scary for him. You already know but each day that passes gets better and better. Soon he'll be laughing and smiling and extending his arms out for you!!!

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  10. Hi Wesley's mommy and daddy, We just got home from our trip and couldn't wait to read your blog. How exciting to get to see him right away. That is a gift in itself. Kids, he will be just fine once he realizes what loving and beautiful parents he has. Like so many people have said, HE is the lucky one. We know that you will all be one happy family. We love you both so much and we can't wait to meet our grandson. Have a wonderful time in Korea, and we will see you next Wednesday. Love to all three of you. Mom and Dad

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  11. He is beautiful, you both are beautiful, and I am so happy for you. I am thrilled that you finally met your precious son! Kira will give him a big hug when they meet and hopefully let him know that he will have good friends at home, too. :-) We've been talking to her about him and telling her that you are going to pick him up in South Korea. She's been hugging the Build-a-Bear in the Korean outfit that you guys gave her a lot this past week - how does she know?! I think she's sending Wesley hugs, channeled through her bear. :-)

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  12. Awesome post. Alison has been sobbing the whole time she was reading it. We're so happy for you and we can't wait to meet your son. This is a great day for the Fullers and we're ready to share your joy. We love you Brian and Michelle and we're so glad to welcome Wesley into our extended family. Enjoy every moment but hurry home. Jim W

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  13. Hello from a new reader and fellow adoptive-mommy-to-be (I hope!). This is a beautiful, beautiful post. I can't wait to follow along as Wesley comes home and settles in as part of the family. :)

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